Relationships Beyond Expectations
There are many types of relationships that you hold in your life. There are neighbors, friends, wives, husbands, children, parents, siblings, lovers, there are people who hate each other, everything is a relationship. Fundamentally, all relationships in your life have come up because you have certain needs to fulfill – physical, mental, emotional, social, financial and so on.
You make friends, you get married, you have children, you start businesses – you do everything – because somewhere you believe this will bring you happiness.
You built all these relationships in pursuit of happiness. Or in other words, somewhere you are trying to squeeze some happiness out of people. Once you do this, relationships will be a constant trouble.
You cannot do without it, you cannot do with it. There is no sense of joy or happiness within you, and you are trying to extract it from somebody, and that person is trying to extract it from you. This is bound to become a battle.
"If you are happy by your own nature, the relationships will become a means for you to express your happiness not to seek happiness"
If you become a source of joy by yourself and your relationships are about sharing your joy... not squeezing joy out of somebody, then you would have wonderful relationships with anybody.
Is there anybody in the world who would have any problem with you if you are going there to share your joy with them? No. You are trying to extract joy from them, that is where the problem is. Relationships have become a problem because we are not using it to enhance our lives. We are trying to fill the gaps in our lives with relationships.
If your relationship is about extracting something out of somebody, it does not matter how much you manage, there will be constant trouble.
Yep🫡
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